Monday, February 8, 2010

The Open Door

Welcome to week 2 of the Blog Carnival!

This week's topic: What aspects of your parents' parenting do you want to continue in parenting your own kid(s)?

If I had to pick one aspect of my parents' parenting that I want to continue on - it would be their open door policy.  We were able to talk to my parents about anything, without risk of being in trouble.  In fact, we were often told that if we were somewhere and got ourselves into a situation, to please call them and they would get us.  I know my brother used this more than once.  I was more squeaky clean (as far as drinking was concerned) and never had to, but I appreciated the fact that it was there and I would not have been afraid to use it.


But unlike my brother, I was a little more *ahem* sexually active *ahem*  Yes it was with the same guy all thorugh high school and into early college, but still - My mom took me to the gyno to get on the pill.  She was there when I took the pregnancy test.  And while it wasn't what she wanted for me, she didn't judge.


As you saw from a prior post - Alan started talking to Connor about condoms at 6 weeks old.  Yeah, that's a bit young, but I think it shows that Alan and I are on the same page.


Do we want him out having sex all the time?  Of course not.  What parent does?  Do we want him drinking every weekend?  Um, no.  But can we stop it if he's not in our house?  No.  All we can do is keep an open door policy with him (and any future children).  Teach him to be responsible when it comes to sex, to call us if he's in a situation and can't get safely home.  To us, it seems not teaching him those things is irresponsible.


~B



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3 comments:

Unknown said...

An open door is so important! I hope I can be that for Aellyn.

Dana Herro said...

Amen!!!

andrea said...

**like** a lot.